How to Lose Yourself in a Relationship


The first “rule” in every girlfriends guide of what not to do and yet it seems to happen to so many of us every time.

These last two years have been emotionally challenging to say the least. I have been through a divorce, a new relationship and now like that famous moment in Friends, I’m officially on a  “BREAK”.  For most of us, the term ‘break’ is a holding pattern until the final launch into oblivion and an official break up.  If there is something in a relationship that needs changing, then the important thing is to communicate and try to change it, together.  If not, man-up and break up, but do it the right way.

My best friend Heidi a.k.a my budget therapist as of recent, has pointed out that it’s time to break the cycle. I came across this great blog on The Huffington Post, Dating Advice: How Not to Lose Yourself in a Relationship by Sahaj Kohli. I had to share it with you.

“If you’re anything like me, the minute you commit yourself to a partner, everything starts to revolve around him or her. You want to make sure you meet his or her needs, but you’re also unconsciously always thinking of ways to make him or her happy. You genuinely like striving to be the perfect partner. Totally understandable. But while you’re submerging yourself in the life of this other person, you may not be making your own the priority it should be.”

To read her list of 16 ways to date someone you’re really, really into without losing yourself, click here for the full blog post.

dishin’ tip: I think Oprah said this “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.” Well said!

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